How does one succeed in life?

An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):

Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.

Opens a business and makes WiFi money.

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I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?

How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?

Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).

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Saving $10,000 is a goal.

Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.

Big dreamer but only in his mind.

My dog is 2 weeks old. He's not eating, moving and always sleeping and I can't take him to a vet. What should I do?

How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?

Does not procrastinate.

Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.

Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.

Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.

How do scientists behave?

Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.

Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.

Living to your full potential is a goal.

What is your worst experience in life?

Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.

What I need from you?

Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.

Why are people nowadays so into anal sex?

Hangs out with loser friends.

However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:

Making more friends is a goal.

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Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.

Losing 20kg is a goal.

Do not set goals—set systems.

Why does my girlfriend keep asking me if I love her?

Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.

If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.

Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.

Do you anal play alone?

Avoids sugar and is very fit.

Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.

Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.

Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.

Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.

PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.

Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.

The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.

Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.

The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.

Ask yourself:

That's it for today.

Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).

Procrastinates a lot.

“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.

First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.

Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.

In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.